We all know that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, right?  How is it that something so ingrained into our DNA, something so natural and essential to our species, something that is so saturated in every media outlet, can still be so shrouded in mystery and misunderstood?  

As a family doctor, I have the privilege of hearing many personal experiences, concerns, and insecurities around sex.  I do not claim to be an expert on the subject, but I do feel passionate about opening up dialogue.  Sexual health is a very important part of our overall well being, and includes our desires, preferences, connection, intimacy, sexual orientation, body image, traumas, and vulnerabilities.  

We (as a collective culture) like to put sex in a box.  We take it out of the box, and expect our bodies to perform.  We attach value to our performance.  We feel like our bodies are a failure when they do not perform to our standards or expectations.  We attach our feminine or masculine identity to this performance.  

My goal with these blogs is to start a conversation, without judgement or shame, about sexual health.  I’d like to take sex out of the box, and unpack some of our collective cultural baggage and how it may be impacting our sexual health.  Topics to be discussed will include things that I talk about with patients on a daily basis: painful intercourse, desire mismatch, erectile dysfunction, past trauma, consent, sexually transmitted infections, puberty and sexual development.